I somehow believe that I have seen a lot of situations in life (perhaps everybody would be thinking like that), but I have always believed that happiness is nothing but an illusion that you have to create around yourself. It is all about the kind of expectations you set around yourself. If you expect something which you do not get, that is the time you start feeling sad and unhappy. And we humans have a basic tendency to take all the good things in life for granted and then just crib about anything which is not according to what we want or expect.
I will share a few tips of how I keep myself happy. First and foremost, I never expect a huge deal from anything in life. I am not a pessimist. In fact, I am an optimist to the core. But I always keep in mind the worst possible scenario and prepare myself for it. And if the worst comes, I try to enjoy it thinking that I can add this to my experience and learn from it. Yeah, it sounds too theoretic. But the other trick I add to it is that I enjoy it by overcoming the so-called “bad” time by taking pride in going through it gracefully and then feeling good about myself. Does it make sense? Perhaps not. But that is my way of looking at it. I have enjoyed many things which majority would see as the most painful days in their lives.
But things are not that simple always. Physical trouble and pains are something different from emotional sufferings. Human is a social animal. Everyone needs at least a few particular people to go on in life. And then the expectations can not be avoided. I have been disappointed many times in life by many people. I used to feel angry and think about it for a long long time. I always gave a lot of importance to relations which I make. And it used to make me feel bad about why things happen wrongly. But then one day I got up and said to myself, why I should suffer everyday for something which is not my fault. I did whatever I felt right and I can not do anything even if I was wrong. I just do not look back. After all, I can not reverse the time. So, what is the point? Easiest thing is to blame yourself and keep on thinking about what you could have done. The other easy thing to do is to blame the other person and keep on cribbing about that. But in both the cases you are doing nothing but hurting yourself. But it is not easy to forget. So, I have a simple way to balance it. I think about how many mistakes I have made in life and I blame the other person and imagine that it is another mistake from that person and justify it in some frame of his/her. And somehow it all looks very easy to take. This is a very interesting exercise and it helps you grow. I feel much more open to things in life once I start realizing that everyone has his own way of living and you have to start respecting that.
Finally, the most important thing in my life to stay happy is that I always keep myself involved in something new. Something which I have never done in my life. This world has a lot to offer and you have a lot of time in a lifetime. Just look around and happiness is spread around you like a buffet. You just have to pick according to your taste buds. And remember happiness does not always cost a whole lot. It needs a little bit of innovation though.
I am not a great writer or something. But this was my attempt to understand myself and to put things in perspective for others. This topic is very close to my heart and if you are still with me, I would like to see some really thought provoking comments.
2 comments:
hello, i like to read what you have written, very "from the heart" keep it up!
You made my day after I read it! Will be back to read more and know more abt u and surely will tell u more abt me next time!
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